Can you Ever be Friends with your EX ?

There’s no one-size-fits-all answer for this age-old question. It gets pretty complicated now that we call it quits and try to not complicate things further. While some people say that, being friends with your ex means you two are mature enough to get over the fact that you two weren’t meant for each other ; while others say, it’s like taking a shower and then putting your dirty underwear back on.
So, who do we believe?

It’ll be different for every broken-up couple, depending on their particular scenario.Sure, being friends after breaking up would be more difficult for the partner who was more emotionally-invested in the relationship than the one who wasn’t into it very much.
Here are a few questions you need to ask yourself before you decide and let your ex back into your life as a friend :-

1) Did you get closure?

You have to make sure you’re emotionally stable and strong enough to go ahead with the friendship and it won’t lead you to get romantically involved with that person again. You should be at peace with a sense of finality.

2) Was the relationship toxic or empowering for you?

If you were someone who always used to cut you down, always had their own interests in mind and didn’t do anything to nourish you as a human, you’re better off now with them out of your life.
But if you guys had a strong connection, were each other’s cheerleaders, encouraged each other to grow but still didn’t work as a couple, it’d be nice to rekindle as friends.couple

3) Do you have honest intentions?

This is a tricky area. The subconscious is a really sneaky beast and you have to make yourself fully aware of what’s driving your interest in remaining friends. If there are no ulterior motives beyond having a great friendship with someone you genuinely want to stay in touch with, then maybe it makes sense.
You also have to be able to hang out with your ex comfortably. You can’t get jealous. You shouldn’t be anxious. It should feel natural to be with them and shouldn’t tax you or them in a negative way.

Though after a break-up, it’s better to have a cooling off period from each other, with little or no communication. But if you’re going to remain friends with your ex, it will happen organically and if you have truly moved on. Anything else would be like auditioning to get your old job back while playing the role of a doormat.